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The Partner You Want to Be: Shifting Focus from Finding to Becoming
The most revolutionary thing you can do in dating is to stop asking "Are they right for me?" and start asking "Am I becoming the partner I want to be?" This shift in focus changes everything—not just how you show up in relationships, but the quality of connection you attract and create.
The Dating App Cycle: Why You Keep Deleting and Re-downloading
While it's easy to blame the apps themselves, the deeper issue often lies in how we approach dating altogether. Most of us download these apps seeking external validation and someone who understands us. We're focused entirely on finding rather than being.
Book Review: "It Takes One to Tango" by Winifred M. Reilly
If you've ever felt stuck in your relationship, wondering if change is possible when your partner seems unwilling or unable to meet you halfway, this book offers both hope and a practical roadmap forward. Winifred Reilly, a Marriage and Family Therapist with decades of experience treating couples, presents a refreshingly honest and empowering approach: you can transform your relationship by focusing on what you can control—yourself.
In Defense of Couples Therapy: Getting Help is a Sign of Strength, Not Failure
Seeking couples therapy isn't admitting defeat. It's declaring war on complacency.
You Are Here to Risk Your Heart
“You have to love. You have to feel. It is the reason you are here on earth.”
Living in the Spirit of Friendship
“Couples need to learn to be friends, to live with each other in a spirit of friendship, to take the quality of friendship as a guide through the tangles we have made of love.”
The Space, the Bridge, and the Encounter
Hedy Schleifer and the power of connection: “Our relationship lives in the space between us. It doesn’t live in me or in you or even in the dialogue between the two of us. It lives in the space that we live together.”
The Power of Vulnerability
Brené Brown is a researcher and storyteller who’s spent two decades studying courage, vulnerability, shame and empathy. Her 2010 TED Talk on vulnerability took the world by storm and since then has been viewed and shared by millions. It remains a delight to watch, and foundational concept to the therapy work I do.