Parts Work: A Gentle Approach to Your Inner World
What Is Parts Work?
Parts work is a natural way of understanding our inner experience. You've likely already done this without realizing it: "Part of me wanted to go to the party, but another part was anxious about meeting new people."
This approach recognizes that we all contain multiple perspectives, emotions, and needs within us. Rather than seeing internal conflict as confusion or weakness, parts work views it as a conversation between different aspects of yourself—each with its own concerns and wisdom.
How It Helps
When you feel torn about a decision or overwhelmed by complex emotions, parts work offers a practical way forward:
It creates helpful distance from overwhelming feelings
It reduces self-judgment by recognizing that conflicting feelings serve protective purposes
It allows you to address internal conflicts with curiosity rather than frustration
It helps uncover deeper needs hiding beneath surface reactions
Simple Ways to Practice
You can begin exploring parts work with these simple approaches:
Ask gentle questions: "Is there a part of me, even a small one, that wants something different here?"
Visualize your parts: Try imagining different aspects of yourself sitting in a room talking to each other, or draw them on paper like a mind map.
Listen without judgment: When you notice conflicting feelings, try giving each "voice" a few minutes of your full attention.
The Internal Family Systems Approach
Internal Family Systems (IFS), developed by Dr. Richard Schwartz, offers a comprehensive framework for parts work. IFS views the mind as naturally multiple—not as a sign of disorder, but as our fundamental nature:
It recognizes different categories of parts (protectors, managers, exiles) each with specific roles
It introduces the concept of "Self" as your core essence—compassionate, curious, and capable of healing
It provides specific techniques for dialoguing with parts and helping them transform
Connecting With Your Past Self
Many people find parts work especially valuable for healing childhood experiences. Terms like "inner child work" or Robyn Posin's "Little Ones" describe how your adult self can provide the understanding and care that younger aspects of you may still need.
This makes parts work particularly effective for addressing harsh inner critics, shame, and persistent patterns that began early in life.
Starting Your Journey
In therapy, parts work offers a compassionate framework for self-understanding. Rather than trying to eliminate difficult emotions or "fix" yourself, you're invited to listen to all aspects of your experience with curiosity and care.
This approach helps you develop not just insight, but also practical skills for emotional regulation, self-compassion, and authentic decision-making in complex situations.
To Learn More
The Disney films Inside Out and Inside Out 2 are fun introductions to the concept of parts.
